Rant of a new mom


You realize times have changed when your “best” rather “best-est” friend cannot find time even once a week to connect with and when I say connect, it is as simple as a simple 2 minute call/ email/ message when before both of you were inseparable. Is it what motherhood does? Alienate others that now you are not in their league? Are not that much fun? Because you think all the person now does is talk about the baby? But what if she doesn’t want to? What if she thinks that this is what she is supposed to do for it is the societal norms? What if she wants to take a break even though the baby is super cute and she loves him/ her? What if she wants to know all about you for that is the only avenue she can have with the outside world after being caged for months in a house? What if when she talks about the baby, it is at times to hide behind the fact that she cannot now be so free like you are now? Probably I had behaved the same with others but who remembers the mistakes one do. But unless one becomes a parent, you will not realize. But but but fatherhood can never be the same as motherhood for Indian laws itself discriminates between both of them. Mom is still supposed to look after all necessities of the baby, what with six months of maternity leave and all, but no paternity leave even in some companies.

So all things aside, this is simply the rant of a new mother awake at unearthly hours. And if you know someone such, say a hello today because you never know how much it will mean to her seeing otherwise all the different interactions you have on social media even after knowing the fact that social media paints more of a happy picture but hey, she is not even having that now!

P.S: The character(s) referred to in this article are not at all fictitious. Any resemblance to living or dead is purely intentional.

About Alka

Trying to just make some sense out of things and put some sense into me!! :) :) :)

Posted on July 15, 2018, in Life and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Oh, Sweet Sweet Word Addiction

    I’m in my second trimester and I’m already seeing this type of behavior from a friend of mine. She says she’s happy for me, but honestly I even hesitated to tell her I was pregnant because she doesn’t want to have kids and I felt like she would judge me. It’s weird but I have a feeling this will change our friendship. More so on her side then mine.

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    • Dearie, even though it will pain you with changing friendships, you need to move ahead. Try joining groups of moms or the hobbies you once had but couldn’t pursue, for I have done the same to keep myself engaged. It is now only just a few times that I get such feeling. Just remember motherhood is all about experiencing things anew like you never had. All the best for times ahead 🙂

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